I had a terrible time writing this post for several and obvious reasons, its sensitivity. I’ll just put it out there, “thigh gaps.” You may be asking, what’s the big deal? Well, let’s be honest, thigh gaps are a huge deal for many young teens and women. This infamous gap is mostly accomplished by being 120-100 or less pounds. Many girls resort to eating disorders and obsessive fitness routines to achieve a thigh gap. It’s pretty terrifying.
SIDENOTE: **YOU ARE ENTITLED TO DO WHATEVER YOU WANT WITH YOUR BODY! I AM ONLY GIVING YOU MY HONEST OPINION AND TRUTH BEHIND THIGH GAPS.**
I must say, I have never dreamed of having a thigh gap, ever. Despite my obsessive fitness routines and eating habits in the past, obtaining a thigh gap was never on my list of things to do. However, when I was at my lowest weight, I remember a colleague gasped and gleed at my “thigh gap”. The amazement in her eyes were concerning, seriously! Who knew that small space was the Holy Grail to many?
During my research on thigh gaps, I discovered an alarming rate of blogs, social media accounts and even professional/well-established websites promoting it! I was in awe. These websites promote starving yourself and other dangerous methods.
Let’s be clear, Deoxyribonucleic acid (AKA DNA) is the reason why MOST women cannot achieve a gap. With the normal fat distribution on a female body, it’s almost impossible to achieve a thigh gap. Genetics and body structure play A HUGE ROLE! If your hip bones were not constructed to be wide then you might want to reconsider. As I’ve mentioned before, some girls go to EXTREME measures like eating less than 500 calories a day or nothing at all. If you are still desiring a thigh gap or know someone who is, I highly suggest you continue reading this article.
Some women are convinced that having a thigh gap is attractive to the opposite sex. Heck, most women (and men too) believes that if they lose a certain amount of weight or look a certain way WILL attract the opposite sex. (NEWFLASH, YOURE WRONG!) “When there are pictures of good-looking guys with women who have thigh-gaps all over social media the implication is you’ll get him if you have the thigh-gap.” says, Dr. Barbara Greenberg, a clinical psychologist.
ASK YOURSELF, “DOES HAVING A THIGH GAP MAKE ME BEAUTIFUL?”
Yes, ask yourself, “why do I really want a thigh gap? Does having a thigh gap make me beautiful? Will having a thigh gap make people like me?” I’ll answer those questions for you, no, no and NO. Having a thigh gap does not increase beauty. Beauty is developed from the inside out. If you read my previous blog posts, I highlight the importance of self-love. Self-love is loving yourself wholly. That means your short afro, acne scars, hairy arms, or broad shoulders. You must accept every inch and depth of your body completely before beginning any fitness regime. Look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I am FABULOUS AND I LOVE YOU!” (That’s what I do! Ha!) When you learn to love yourself, you won’t be tempted to compare your body to a woman with a thigh gap. I had my fair share of comparing my body to fitness models on social media and in real life. I started to resent my body and praised everyone else that had an ideal “body”. I had to understand the power of appreciation and gratitude towards myself. I believe that self-love is the strongest muscle most people forget to exercise. Love the skin you’re in!
In conclusion, let’s debunk this dangerous idea of achieving a thigh gap and start the New Year with positive body mantras! Get fit because you want to be healthy not because of a specific body you saw online or on social media. Stop trying to be like a fitness model on IG and just focus on being the best version of yourself. I’m not saying it will be easy, but make it a habit to become positive!
Special thanks to HerCampus for providing this helpful research. Please be sure to check them out!
If you or someone you love is suffering with body dysmorphia (A mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance.), please seek medical attention. You are worth more than what you see.
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